ARGUMENT OR RELATIONSHIP?by EnRichment Place Clinicians on 01/17/19
Being "right" often seems more important at the time of a disagreement than it is in hindsight. Many couples come in for counseling to reduce the stress on their relationship due to arguments. However, when asked what the disagreement is about, they usually can't remember or they agree that it was not an issue of importance. The real problem is that both parties have a strong desire to get their point across and to be "right". But, let's ask a few questions. Is it "right" to reduce the value of your communication with your partner because of frequent and, sometimes, unneeded arguments? Is it "right" to bring emotional distress into your relationship over a desire to prevail? In this type of situation is anyone really "right"? Let's take some time to reflect on how important the subject matter may be to us before we allow ourselves to become passionately engaged in defending our perspective. Which is more important? The argument or the relationship?