The E R Place Counseling Blog
For those who are coping with anxiety, day to day life is full of hazard signs. Every instance that increases your stress and anxiety may be leading you towards an anxiety attack or major meltdown. It is important to create an environment that leads to positive energy. Think about the places where you spend the most time and set up space around you in those places for positive energy. Do this with sound, sight, and aroma. If you like quiet music playing in the background or have a poster of your favorite quote over your desk at work. Maybe you enjoy plants and set up a plant stand in the corner of your living room. If you enjoy the scent of lavender or chamomile, then use aroma therapy.
When relationships aren't going well, we often are much too focused on what the other person did or said that upset us. The truth is that this is an opportunity to not only learn about the other person in the relationship but to learn about ourselves. For instance, if the other person's behavior was heinous in some way, we may want to spend a little time reflecting on our emotional mindset to be certain we aren't projecting the type of emotional energy that would bring this individual into our lives.
While at the hair salon this week (yes, I go faithfully every two weeks), I was speaking to another woman who was sharing that she was looking forward to the flowers that she had ordered delivered to herself for Valentine's Day. The two of us and the salon owner had a good chuckle over this. However, as we began to discuss her motives further, it became apparent that she was serious about doing something for herself to mark this occasion. She had a Significant Other but felt that rather than wait for someone else to show their love for her, she would show love for herself. Her words were, "no one knows how I like to be loved better than I do so I chose to do something beautiful for myself." She shared how much she was looking forward to her flower delivery and the special note she'd written for herself. Her face lit up with excitement. Then the salon owner revealed that she was taking herself to a jazz concert on Valentine's Day night. I was so uplifted that these strong, beautiful (and I do mean beautiful) ladies were choosing to do something positive to show their love for themselves. We can each learn a lesson in self-love from them because we can't always expect love to come from outside of us. Sometimes you have to do something just for you.